As I brainstormed ideas for “The Age of Bold: Women Gathering Courage, Wisdom and Strength”, it was no surprise that Danielle Rose came to mind. A writer, herbalist, and intuitive reader—not to mention a mother with a journalism career, she is able to do it all. As someone close to me for many years, I’ve been privileged to see her growth, not only as a writer and artist, but also as a woman. Danielle has been through her share of challenges and obstacles, but managed to retain a very magical, abstract, and beautifully grounded outlook in life. This energetic attitude enabled her to write her novel, Chimera, and to create an online business and community of artists, educators and healers.
For her feature guest blog, she talks about being in touch with her instincts, how she’s learned to recognized her own strength, and what her life journey has been about.
This is her story in her own words:
Instinct and magic is always a transitional process. We all have it, but it’s a matter of recognizing and understanding it—even those with extraordinary abilities undergo this process. However, that’s not to say that there aren’t moments that act as milestones. Sometimes it’s difficult to notice them right away.
Travel has always been important to me. For many of the obvious reasons—experiencing different cultures and traditions, learning new things, seeing the world—but also because I think it represented a freedom which, coming from a sheltered and abusive childhood, I never had.
My dream was to backpack Europe upon graduating high school. However, I was deeply discouraged from this adventure by my mother and guidance counselor, and encouraged to go to college first (I had planned on going after). They convinced me I would be able to travel in college and in my 20s. However, during my first year of college I was forced to live on my own, and needed to work to support myself and my education. After college, I had a full time job, was still in an apartment, and was determined to save diligently to buy a home and get out of the rent-rut. After purchasing my home, I became engaged, was married, had children… you get the idea. I did travel at points with my husband, but due to work and financial restrictions the amazing adventure I had always wanted, and which would have offered invaluable life lessons, never truly materialized.
My point here is that no time is ever the right time. As the years passed I realized in my gut that not following my heart after high school was a huge mistake. As a mother of a three-year-old and a one-year-old baby, I had an opportunity (albeit one that stretched everything!) to travel to France to take a class with an artist who had been a mentor of mine since I was a young girl. Determined not to regret yet another instinct-defying decision, I visualized myself there, took risks, and eventually got on a plane, alone, and visited Dublin and France solo. I made some amazing friends, had incredible adventures, and learned more than I ever expected—not just about art, but about life and myself.
I had taken the cycle full circle as they say. I rectified some of the hurt from not following my passion as a teenager, and changed my life completely by following my instinct and my passion as an adult. That was three years ago. I am still amazed at how much that experience has changed my life, and is still changing it.
I believe I am a spiritual warrior and an indigo child. When you delve into the shadow side and integrate it into the whole, it reflects back on others, and others don’t always want to see that side of themselves. As such I’m a fairly solitary person, even though I crave social situations. My relationships with other women was never ideal. I still struggle with it. I believe that is, in large part, because the work I do is internal and needs to happen solitary. However, I am always maturing, and as I do, the circle of women around me has grown—and there is less drama, selfishness and hurt than I experienced among women in my youth. I’m also learning to draw inward when conflicts rise, as this is clearly my path, and doing so has actually helped me build stronger relationships.
Being a mother has also changed the dynamic of woman-to-woman relationships, since motherhood changes everything.
I’ve also learned that in life there is never balance!
There’s a term I learned as a nature healer that I try to recall when things are difficult— it’s called dynamic balance. Like ecosystems, people are always changing. There’s never a real balance point, just a shifting viewpoint. I have created a list called “The Rules.” The Rules are the things that are most important to me, and they’re imperative when I feel off balance or don’t know where to go next. My kids are at the top of that list. No, I lie. I am at the top of that list… sometimes I have to remind myself of that.
Putting myself first came only after a large amount of rationalization. But in the end I realized that there was only one good way to be a mom—if I was whole, healthy and happy.
Another realization stemming from that was: What am I teaching my girls? Am I teaching them how to care for someone else and nothing else? Or am I teaching them to live their life to the fullest and follow their passions while also loving and caring for those dearest to them? I chose the latter, because that’s the life I want for them. I give them infinite love, freeze a lot of crock pot meals, and see the pay-off in little moments—like when my 3 year old pretended she was going on a plane to go to school in France, or when at six she learned I had not won the novel contest I had been working so hard at preparing for, and turned to the winner, whom she had just met, gave her a big hug and said, “I am so proud of you.”
To learn more about Danielle and her life journey, check out Mind Key, a community where individuals are encouraged to find their true calling and zest for life. It connects artists, writers, hobbyists, healers, educators and anyone who believes in living life to the fullest.
Together with contributing artists and writers, Danielle brings us the second Mind Key Anthology, “Yin and Yang: The Duality of Balance”. This is a beautifully illustrated book featuring writings and art from talented individuals. Pre-order your copy today.
Don’t forget to check out Chimera, Danielle’s novel inspired by the Mind Key Project.
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